Sex Toys for Couples: How to Bring Sex Toys Into the Bedroom

“Vibrators are scientifically proven to help you orgasm viberators,” says Laurie Mintz, P.h.D., a psychologist, certified sex therapist, and the author of Becoming Clitorate. “Orgasms are linked to increased sexual satisfaction and improving physical and emotional health outcomes. Think about what has given you pleasure in the past, specifically where you prefer to feel stimulation—and whether you enjoy penetration. Overall, the Lovense Lush is a strong choice for most people, with various connection and control options, high power, and pairing options.

There are various versions of the Magic Wand, including an old-school one that plugs into the wall, but this rechargeable version is more convenient and has more settings than the electric model. Using a sex toy is “an opportunity to experience new pleasures beyond your own hands,” says Destin Gerek, a sexologist and host of the Evolved Masculine podcast. “[Toys] allow you to enjoy those sensations even when your partner is not available or simply not in the mood.” And when they are, toys can ramp up partnered sex with new sensations and even help you go a little longer. If saving the planet while having mind-blowing orgasms is your vibe , the Gaia Eco Rabbit is the holy grail. Made from biodegradable, body-safe materials, it’s proof that sustainability can be really sexy.

It would seem that vibrators fall under the rubric of unmentionable products (Katsanis, 1994), and hence are largely avoided from scientific inquiry (at least by marketing scholars). That said, vibrators constitute a market estimated at one billion dollars in the United States alone (Chiang, 2011). Most vibrators have locking mechanisms too, which some people mistake for a faulty product. Gerek vouches that this toy makes for “explosive climaxes” with its combination of sucking, stroking, and vibration. Yes, there’s even a “climax button” you can deploy when you’re getting close to coming, and the toy will suck you in even deeper, mimicking a deep-throating sensation for an intense finish.

With two powerful yet quiet motors that have four speeds and six vibration modes, it’s your one-way ticket to good vibes for under $100. Most sex toys come with a range of speeds and vibration patterns to tick all your boxes. But the sensations they provide can differ, so think about what you prefer. Bullets and smaller vibrators tend to be buzzy, delivering targeted pleasure direct to your clitoris, while wands come with a larger, more powerful motor that creates deeper, rumbly vibrations. This floral-shaped suction toy is the original Lovehoney Rose that went viral a few years ago and after testing it, we can see why it’s so popular. Gorgeous design aside, it helped our panel reach orgasm at lightning speed.

And though it may take some trial and error, it certainly does deliver. From appearance alone, you can tell that the Magic Wand is not the most subtle toy out there, but icons don’t have to be. With vibrations maxing out at 6300 RPM, or 105HZ, it’s definitely on the rumblier end of the spectrum, but make no mistake — this wand makes some noise. The power this wand packs is no joke, and first time users might need some time to work their way up from the first intensity level. The Luna is lighter than other wand vibrators, clocking in at just 4.7 ounces. Combined with its flexible neck and seven inches of length, you get a pretty maneuverable wand.

According to Lelo, the fine, bendable tip means it’s extra precise and won’t numb the entire area around the clitoris, allowing for multiple orgasms. Moving in a constant figure-of-eight pattern around your erogenous zones – instead of circular motions like traditional sex toys – the brand promises a “sweeping release of sensations”. Vibrators are sex toys that are used on the body to create sexual stimulation. Modern vibrators, also known as massagers, use electronic power to create vibrations or pulses. Vibrators are some of the most approachable sex toys on the market, but there are so many types of vibrators that it can make even a long-term vibrator owner go a bit mad. From bullet vibrators and the iconic rabbit vibrator to all those funny shaped but deliciously potent vibrators in between, shopping for one can get overwhelming.

A few less-than-perfectly-dressed fret ends aside, the neck is addictively comfortable. If there’s a lot of Richard Thompson hammer-ons and pull-offs in your own playing vernacular, you’ll love the snappy touch responsiveness. You can really start to bend the Viberator to your own needs with the modern/vintage voice switch. The difference between the two voices is especially pronounced in chorus mode.

Emily Ferry is the prop master on Grace and Frankie, and she scoured both the web and brick-and-mortar stores to find inspirations for the Ménage à Moi vibrator that would eventually appear on the show. This is why advocates of a less ageist, more sex-positive culture say they’re hopeful Grace and Frankie can serve as a pivotal moment for making senior sexuality a more mainstream topic. Senior sexuality is often used as an ageist punchline — even in some of the most “progressive” of shows. The most recent season of Broad City, for example, featured an older woman named Garol shopping for a comically large dildo.

The Dame Kip is a perfectly effective and elegant lipstick-style vibrator, but it is usually more expensive than the equally powerful Satisfyer Purple Pleasure. In an earlier version of this guide, we named the CalExotics Silver Bullet as our budget pick. Subsequently we concluded that the pricier but cordless Satisfyer Purple Pleasure offered stronger vibrations, was made of better-quality materials, and was more aesthetically pleasing. None could surpass the Magic Wand in terms of both time-tested power and value. The corded Doxy Number 3 is a smaller, quieter version of the Doxy Original. Although this sleek wand is both aesthetically pleasing and powerful, it costs more than our Magic Wand picks and the original Doxy.